Monday, September 27, 2010

One of these mom's is not like the other...

Awwe, those childhood Sesame Street days have spawned a new blog about how Allison and I are so different when it comes to Evangeline....oh let me count the ways:
(for those of you that did not watch Sesame Street...A is for Allison and R is for Ruth)

Diaper changing:
A- takes her time, makes sure that the wipes are warm, talks to E kindly and checks to make sure that all snaps get snapped
R- goes quick, wipes with what is there, repeats E's noises to her in higher pitch funny tones, and snaps the 1st and last snaps

Spit up:
A- cleans it all up with a wipe, wipes her face with a "warm" washcloth, and changes any clothing that has been contaminated
R- cleans it up with napkin, wipes face with same said napkin, and wipes shirt with same said napkin and leaves all clothing as is until there is a lingering order resonating from said area on said clothing

A- puts on clothes that match and socks (to please me)
R- puts on clothes that match and must have socks/shoes when E leaves the house, plus extra clothes in car and handbag

Diaper Bag:
A- carries it along with her purse
R- shoves everything from my purse into diaper bag (would also place E in it but she doesn't quite fit) so that she only has to carry 2 things instead of 3

A- nice and calmly pats until a burp, or hands Eva over to me when she's given up trying or is too tired from all that breast feeding
R- well it depends: If  tired; she tries to burp her and looks at Allison and says "Sorry, I'm tried, can you try" (with sad/tired face of course- usually between the hours of 2-5am). If not tired, she pats forcefully and always manages to burp herself before burping E, but does succeed most often in at least 1 full manly belch.

Tummy time:
A- feels it hurts E so only places her for small periods of time
R- places her on tummy though Mama A said she just ate, and then proceeds to clean up said spit up from floor mat, yet insisting all the while that it is the best for her and that surely enough time must have passed since the feeding so she has no idea why she just spit up ;)

Bath time:
A- warms water to "Ideal", washes all areas, talks lovingly to her and dries her promptly
R- watches all said above and smiles while forgetting to have the towel ready in time, unless its her turn then she follows in mama A's footsteps

Car Seat:
A- places E in car seat, tightens her in and places her in car, watches her adamantly on the rear view mirror
R- places her in car seat, re-tightens her after mama A has tightened her in, places her in car, and goes on enjoying the car ride, until mama A says "hey I can't see her", whereby she gets up and fixes the baby facing mirror to accommodate Mama A.

A- talks to Evangeline in Spanish when she knows the words
R- talks to Evangeline in Spanish all the time, and loves when Allison laughs at me and says " you sound like your mother"

A- wakes up anytime E stirs and even when she doesn't
R- out cold, usually wakes up after a couple of cries, then proceeds to join Velociraptor aka Evangeline in her grunts and shrills (which makes Mama A laugh)

A- places E(who is strapped into infant car seat) in stroller and walks along Ruth or places E in shopping cart but worries she will topple over
R- places E in shopping cart and enjoys shopping (though secretly also worried that the infant seat will slide so she holds it with her hands)

Story Time:
A- usually likes for Mama R to read so she can shower and take a baby break (since she is home all day with Chicken Little aka Evangeline- don't you see the resemblance?)
R- loves to read in silly voices, starting with the Dr. Seuss collection, and loves it when E stares at the pages (they are never to young to start bedtime reading)

Doctors Visits:
A- talks to Dr but likes for Mama R to hold E while she gets her shots
R- is not allowed to talk to the Dr. because she will start discussing a medical journal which will lead to a 1.5 hour doctors visit, nor is she allowed to ask questions on topics she researched which she believes she would like to get the Dr's opinion on for same said reason, but loves to go anyways :)

Buying baby products:
A- let's Mama R run with it
R- researches, buys Organic when it's available and tries her best to not buy cute attire while on her lunch breaks but if she does she explains to Mama A that is was a great deal so she couldn't pass it up, never buys something if it's not on sale or if she doesn't have a coupon.

Saying "I love you":
A- all day long
R- when she's with her but usually in different accents or voices, sometimes just written on a post it note on her car seat

Well enough about those mom's on to Miss Evangeline

-Today was her 2 month checkup
     She weighs 9lbs 14 oz- places her in the 25 percentile
     Is 23 inches tall- places her in the 75 percentile
     Her head is 15" inches- places her in the 25 percentile
     Still has long fingers and still has not produced any more hair

She projectile vomited over Ruth for the 1st time this week

She wore her 1st GI this week- thank you Mrs. Sani

Does what the Dr calls "Social Smiling" which means she smiles when we smile at her

AND the best one yet she slept for 5.5 hours one night. Yeah!

The M-M family at the Black Belt Spectacular 2010

Tuesday, September 21, 2010

Things people say...

Soooo.... the same thing keeps happening to me and I feel like it's groundhog day. When we are out and about with our little one people say: 1 of 4 things...

a. Congratulations and look at Allison -She says "Oh, Thank you" and I just smile, say nothing.
b. Awwee, whose the mom?- To which Allison says we are and the person walks away totally confused.
c. Congrats and looks at us both- to which we both say "thank you" and the person walks away totally confused.
d. Is that Allison's baby?(to me while I am holding her) "Yes, it is our baby- I reply. And they reply with, "Oh I thought it was Allison's baby" and I reply "Yes, it is". Then they ask "Who are you?"and I reply.. the mom.. And they walk away totally confused (some of them laughing weirdly and walk away).

It's 2010 people and we live in California. Seriously?? I hope John & Kate and that crazy 19 Kids and Counting mom get comments like this.

Kids questions and answers:

-A cute little girl just about 6-7 years old, comes up and says your baby is so pretty, I say Thank you, so are you. She asks are you the mama and I say Yes I am, she says is Allison the mama too? I say, yes she is the mama also. She smiles, says Great and gives me a hug!
- My niece- Titi's going to be a dad- I am so happy for her and Allison (7 years Old) Ironically enough (we got E's birth certificate and I am officially titled the Father. Can you believe it?? I think people are going to think I got a sex change. Could it not just say partner 1 and partner 2??)
- A little boy- probably 9 or so. Is that your baby? (while pointing at Evangeline) Yes, it is I reply. Is that Allison's baby also? I say, yes it is. He replies: "Oooohhhh...pause... Cool and smiles really big and then gives E a kiss.

Why can't we all have the mentality of a child?

Best story yet: (I swear I should start a book on dumb things people say to gay parents.)
- Our neighbor (who is a older woman) comes by and sees the baby and says in baby talk to Evangeline "I have a little grandson that is just your age", then she adds "if that's what your into when you grow up". I really didn't know what to say but my mouth dropped open. THEN my mind went crazy...Holy Rusted Metal Batman.. "if that's what she's into"...What do you mean? (sounding like my dad when he found out). She won't be gay because we are gay. Is it sad that I do not want her to be gay? It's hard, its not a life that I want my child to endure...the countless accusations, looks, laws, threats, etc... no way would someone choose this lifestyle. But OF COURSE if she is gay then we will have plenty of guidance and experience to pass down. But who says such a thing to a child?? Then Allison says to me "she was just trying to be nice hun" but come on people don't say to other white people with a baby girl, "I have a white son that's her age, if that's what she's into. (well, at least I hope not :/)

Onto Evangeline news (two updates in a week, I know...I have had some free time):
- Let's see...its been harder to find E a good Winter Jacket in 0-3 months, than finding a straight man at Lady gaga concert.
- I still feel like I'm sleeping in Jurassic Park when little Eva lays between us.
- We figured out a way to keep her wipe solution warm to use with our cloth wipes -I think we were freezing her little private parts with the cold spray bottle before :(
- She wakes up smiling which reminds me of Soleil and Luna because they also did.
- She's up to almost 3.5 ounces a feeding, she will be getting more boobie milk in a bottle from now on because Allison finally got the all clear to go back to the studio.
- Farts like a old man, and yes-it makes me laugh every time
- Had a AMAZING time with Auntie M this past week! And loves her new hat!

Allison says that Evangeline and I sleep this way most nights

Friday, September 17, 2010


So Little Miss E slept for 4 hours and 15 minutes for one night. Yep just one night. She is sleeping a solid 3 hours after a feeding at night but not much more then that. Which still leaves for very tired mamas, especially Allison because she does the feedings. We have tired a couple things to get her to sleep more but no avail. So we will continue to conquer sleep mountain.

She is continuing to grow and we think she is in the upper 9lb range (she gets weighed next week at our 2 month appt) Crazy that we are closing in on 2 months and it feels like a year sometimes. I look at her sleeping and think of the person she is going to become. I keep asking myself how do you raise good kind hearted children? Not the most beautiful or smartest or even most talented. I want people to know that she has a kind soul. I look around at children that I knew when they were wee little things and some have come out great and others not so much. What makes the difference? I want my kids to still talk to me through the teenage years, not go to jail, not beat on others (other than for self defense because sure enough they will all know how to handle themselves if Allison as anything to do with it), and strive to be good people. Not lazy, unmotivated, not lost in this world with no goals or aspirations. I want them to volunteer, give to others and just love life for all it has to offer! So now you know where my mind wanders at night when I stare at her. But for now we still have an amazing 1st year to get through and to look forward to. Which will be filled with many firsts and many many many photos!

Let's see..update on Evangeline
- She holds her head up while on tummy time
- Almost conquered rolling over
- Still loves bath time
- Smiles when I make silly noises or laugh in her face
- Is just starting to fit her 0-3 clothing
- Is very close to fitting her size 1 shoes
- Still loves that breast milk
- Is becoming an iChat Pro
- Can hit her bobo (pacifier) and launch it across the bed when she is done with it (it was funny at first now just annoying because we are the ones trying to find it afterwards)
- Still grunts and groans like an old man

Drunk after some good milk (sorry Blogger kept turing the pic sideways)